I recently watched Louis Theroux's latest documentary exploring the manosphere. He interviewed many "red pill" people who are very well known on social media...

The addicted part of the mind (APOTM) bullies most people into relapsing. And most advice is like a teacher telling a kid that is getting bullied to stay out of the bullies way. But, what we do instead is tell people to stand up to the bully in a rational way...

Before learning the Beyond Compulsion method, I was always on the defensive against the addicted part of the mind (APOTM). I was scared of having urges...

When in a porn addiction, you can often feel numb and desensitised to the world around you. The addicted part of the mind is busy doing the talking and with no way of dealing with this part of the mind, you can feel blocked from happiness, joy, and connection. I've been there...

Living in a porn addiction is a certain way of life. For many people, it comprises of keeping streaks, consuming content online, and reading some books on the topic. And for a lot of people, it's an indefinite cycle of blockers, removing triggers, staying busy, and then inevitably relapsing again anyway...

If you have been here a while, you will know the Beyond Compulsion method teaches people how to deal with the addicted part of the mind (APOTM) in an effective way. Part of this is being able to let the APOTM talk, without fear of relapse...

The addicted part of the mind (APOTM) just wants one thing. And it will even go so far as using the child self's emotional vulnerability against you...

In the moment of compulsive desire, the addicted part of the mind (APOTM) has one job - to try and get you to engage in your compulsive behaviour. And one thing it will try and do is get you thinking into the future...

The reason people find themselves addicted to porn for years and often decades is because every relapse strengthens the addicted neural pathways. I used to think I was making progress by going on NoFap streaks, but I was just managing and controlling my addiction...

When I started posting YouTube videos and podcasts about porn addiction I was just another NoFap guy with a streak. But, I was on a mission to change things...

A lot of approaches to overcoming porn reinforce feelings of shame. This isn't talked about much and I believe it happens very subtly.

When I was in the porn addiction I did everything I could to get away from the desire. I believed that having the desire to watch porn was a bad thing...

If every time you had an urge to engage in a behaviour that you wanted to stop - you were able to make the right choice, how different would you life be?

A lot of life situations could lead to you wanting to engage in your compulsive behaviour. Well, more specifically, the addicted part of the mind can try and use life circumstances as a rationalisation to get you to relapse.

Often people feel like they "have to" stop watching porn. They feel like it is a chore, a task, a horrible sacrifice they have to make...

Yesterday I was on a phone call with someone interested in joining the Beyond Compulsion Academy. He seemed very keen on joining the program and working with us, but there was fear that joining BCA wouldn't help him solve this problem. "What if I join and it doesn't work? What if I still relapse?"

When I look back on the past, I am in disbelief. I used to think and act in all kinds of irrational ways. I didn't understand my own mind. I was clueless. I kept relapsing. I kept feeling like a failure.

People don't gain benefits from simply "quitting" porn, but from dealing with the addicted part of the mind (APOTM) correctly - consistently, repeatedly, over time. And from dealing with the APOTM, in the correct way, they get to stop watching porn as well as any other compulsive behaviour they want to stop.

Most people think porn addiction is about sex. Personally, I see it much more like taking heroin than having sex. What you get from porn is temporary relief from the discomfort of wanting to engage in a compulsive behaviour.

When I was stuck in a porn addiction, I blamed a lot of external events for my relapses. I would scroll on social media and blame the algorithm for showing me sexual content. Nowadays, I see right through that kind of junkie thinking.