The APOTM bombards you with thoughts like "once won't hurt", "everyone does it", and "this will be the last time". The APOTM desperately wants you to engage in your compulsive behaviour and will try anything it can. It wants temporary relief from the discomfort of withdrawal.

Joe's story of overcoming 17 years of addiction is going to inspire a lot of people. I look forward to sharing it on the podcast soon...

When I used to watch porn, I would feel frustrated afterwards. I felt like I'd wasted so much time and energy. I felt like it promised so much, but when I'd finish - I'd be left with nothing...

If you want to overcome a porn addiction for good, experiencing temporary discomfort is required. Unfortunately, this is rarely spoken about. But, it is true. Making changes in neural pathways is uncomfortable.

When you are going through the process of withdrawal, the addicted part of the mind (APOTM) can try and make you feel terrible. And in those moments when you are down it will say "you feel rubbish anyway...".

Often people focus on "not doing" something. This uses up willpower and is unsustainable. It keeps people stuck in their porn addiction for years and years.

Even self-improvement books validate helplessness. We are more rational than we are being conditioned to believe.

But, before this method, nothing I tried was sustainable. I'd have a bad day and I'd forget all of the consequences of being in the porn addiction and I'd go ahead and relapse. Maybe I had been stressed out or ill or tired or lonely. Or all of these things. It doesn't matter the reason. I'd relapse. And I'd edge and binge and go deep into a hole of self-destruction.

When I was in a porn addiction, the external world had a powerful grip on my life. I let the world happen to me. My mind was weak and I was influenced by everything and everyone. Nowadays, I am clear on my vision in life...

When it comes to porn addiction recovery - people are being taught to pull on the wrong levers. It is like people are trying to get stronger biceps by going on a run.

If you wish to overcome a porn addiction, there is only person who can truly help you escape...

I used to think that once I went enough days without porn, everything would change. There was this illusion of a distant future. A pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

I used to think I had a problem with porn. Chances are, if you are reading this - you also think you have a problem with porn. And whilst you may want to stop watching porn, your issue is actually with compulsivity.

Trying to reduce triggers but always end up relapsing? Here is why.

Simplicity is your best friend. Get on the straight line and say goodbye to living in a compulsion.

When I was in a porn addiction, I would get so caught up in the amount of days it had been since I had last relapsed. I rarely zoomed out and saw the bigger picture...

I used to be a circle person, jumping from one method to another. I never had real consistency, stability or feelings of being grounded.

Yesterday I had a 1-1 in-person session with a client. And we dealt with his problem strategically. I don't focus on what client's have done in the past. I care about helping them stop every behaviour they want to stop, correctly.

Build self-trust by dealing with the addicted part of the mind correctly

I often used to think to myself that I could just "start again tomorrow" but did this really work?